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Family can be a curse and a blessing. And I mean that in a positive way! Positive? How can a curse be positive? It’s all in how you look at it.
Things don’t usually upset us unless we care. The fact that there are people in the world who can put up with my faults, weaknesses, bad habits, snoring, whims, etc., and still see the good in me and love me is nothing short of a miracle! That is what makes family so wonderful!
The curse? My life will never be the same! Nothing will top being quietly kissed in the morning by a precious 6 year old. Nothing will ever be funnier than family antics that only we know, remember and share. The bond of the family can make everything else less important. This includes families by marriage, adoption, whatever you consider to be your family.
Before we rage at that which irritates us among family, we need to remember how lucky we are to have family and work to built and maintain the relationships. It can be easy to overlook and take advantage of the fact that family will be there in the end. That being said, it is important to mention that there really are people who don’t have family. Sometimes because they let emotions block the ability to forgive and forget. Others because of death or illness.
When it comes to family members with mental illness, often the family find it necessary to cut ties with the ill member. This happens frequently among families who are dealing with addiction or chronic mental illness that inhibits the mentally ill person’s ability to recognize he/she is ill. (This is called anosognosia)
So, where is all this coming from. Well, I’ve been doing a bit of life review in the midst of losing a co-worker to a sudden 60 day battle with cancer.
If you knew with absolute certainty that you wouldn’t be with your family for the annual family gathering in June, what would you say? Who would you say it to? Can you forgive and forget?